In life, each of us will inevitably encounter a few bad things, many people will unconsciously entangled in it. In fact, the reason why shit sucks is because the more you care about it, the more it sucks, making you rot with it, forever stuck in it. When shit happens, the best thing z can do is let it go.
Dwelling on shit is the biggest punishment you can give yourself
Nordske, a Norwegian psychologist, served in the army at the age of 21. There was an emergency gathering in the middle of the night for military exercises, and because of the rush of time, he had no time to tie his shoes. So, throughout the course of the exercise, he repeatedly thought about the untied shoelace: just tied casually, now will it be loose? If it's loose, will it get dirty? Will it trip me? He couldn't focus on the drill because he was worried about his shoelaces. As a result, he paid a terrible price, his left leg was accidentally shot and injured, and after surgery, it was 2.7 centimeters shorter than his right leg. In fact, there was nothing wrong with the LACES from beginning to end. It is clearly a matter that is not worth paying attention to at all, but he repeatedly entangled in it, and then paid a lot of no small price. There are many similar things, typical, is the recent circle of friends caused hot discussion of Chongqing bus falling into the river incident. Obviously just a small matter of missing the place to get off, the passenger had to lose his temper and even physically attacked the driver. The driver was also "not to be outdone", driving while fighting with passengers. Relative to Nordsk was shot, this incident paid a heavier price, not only the person lost his life, but also implicated a dozen innocent passengers. For this phenomenon, Nordsk has proposed the "psychological diffraction theory", which means that people's attention is limited, at the same time, you pay attention to one thing, you will ignore other things. And the human brain is often easy for some unrelated small entanglements, leading to bad events. Nietzsche once said that if you wrestle with a dragon for too long, you become a dragon. Look too long into the abyss, the abyss will look back. Dwelling on shit is the biggest punishment you can give yourself. We can't stop shit from happening, but we can change our attitude about it.
People who do great things may hate bad things but they don't dwell on bad things
When Guo Degang's master Hou Yaowen was alive, he once said of his apprentice: "All the difficulties along the way will inevitably hate evil." Because of this character, Guo Degang often becomes the focus of the news vortex. On the one hand, Guo Degang fights against the sky and the air, and has a super fighting spirit. In 2007, Mr. Guo created the crosstalk "I Want to Go on the Spring Festival Gala," which portrayed the CCTV Spring Festival Gala as a murky, guanxi place, with every word laced with sarcasm and irony. In the same year, Hou Wenyao died, and his brother Hou Yaohua was suspected of handling and encroachment on tens of millions of legacies without authorization, Guo Degang could not stand it, rolled up his sleeves and joined the legacy case. On the other hand, Guo Degang is a calm, generous person. Once, on his show "Crosstalk has New People," a husband and wife with a doctor's degree from Shanghai Jiaotong University were full of anger and tried to subvert the "drama" of traditional crosstalk. And Guo Degang gave them some less certain comments, Doctor husband and wife began to sneer after listening: "regret to come to the old Guo this group", "Guo Degang crosstalk is not senior at all", "really good crosstalk, is formulaic, scientific calculation of the punchline". An ordinary person, subjected to a series of personal attacks in his own field, might be angry on the spot. And Guo Degang did not, he only responded with a sentence: "You can still go now." After the fact, the Doctor and his wife are still entangled and continue to fight online, while Guo Degang chooses to ignore them. This kind of thing is not uncommon. Once, a friend told Guo Degang that a website scolded him for buying fans and creating fake popularity. But Guo Degang did not seem to hear, and continued, "I found that when stir-frying shrimps with cucumber, pickle the melon slices thoroughly with salt, and then stir-fry them, the taste is more delicious." Not only can he see it for himself, but he also persuades others. Once Guo Degang's apprentice posted a micro blog, was insulted in the comments, angry, Guo Degang advised him: "Since we can't talk together, why bother?" Blocked." He also made an analogy to his apprentice: two people bet on whether Zhuge Liang and Kong Ming are the same person, no matter who wins, it is meaningless. Many successful people have a grudge grudge character, grudge grudge behind the sense of responsibility, which is also an important reason why they can stand out. But they also know that focusing on bad things only wastes their time and energy, and they delay the important things.
General hurry, don't chase rabbit There are too many important things to do in life
When director Jia Zhangke first started his career, he earned his living by writing screenplays. On one occasion, he wrote a 20-episode TV series as agreed, but the other side refused to pay him for "not signing a formal contract." Years later, recalling this incident, Jia Zhangke said: "The general rushed on, did not chase rabbits." It's such a small thing, there's no need to change yourself, change your trust in people and your passion for the industry." In life, when we encounter bad things, we tend to dwell on them. At this time, perhaps we can also tell ourselves: "General hurry, do not chase rabbit". Each of us has a very limited amount of energy in life. A man who wants to achieve great things must concentrate his energy, because only concentration can move faster. There are so many important things to pursue in life, never dwell on the bad things.
